Haydee [00:00:30]:
Hello. It feels so good to have you here. My name is Haydee, and I’m so excited to be your hostess. Voluptuous Questions is a podcast I dreamt of making precisely so you and I could be together right now. Podcasts have a way of attracting you to a podcast host and making you feel connected to them. With Voluptuous Questions, I’m taking this to a whole new level, baby. Not only am I inviting you to get a little closer to me, but I want to get a little closer to you. I want to get to know you more, and I especially want you to get to know yourself more in the process.
I want this so much that this podcast will be about YOU and our conversations together. Look, I LOVE learning, and I LOVE experts. I’m constantly learning. But can I be real with you? We don’t need or crave more learning right now. What we crave is connection. So I am pointing the spotlight at YOU right now. YOU are the star of this podcast, and in every episode, I’m going to interview YOU. Don’t worry.
You don’t have to record your voice anywhere. Hop on a call with me, get a haircut to see me, or schedule a meeting with me. Simply make it a priority to come back to the Voluptuous Questions podcast EVERY week so that your own relationship with yourself. And if you choose to accept the mission, our relationship grows. All you have to do is to imagine that we were at a nice restaurant, eating mouthwatering food or sitting at a warm beach with turquoise waters or in front of a fireplace, and we were having this conversation as friends. Hopefully, I haven’t made you too nervous yet. Before I put you in the hot seat and ask you your first interview question, let me try to relax you by telling you two things. One, I want to share with you why I named this podcast Voluptuous Questions.
And two, what types of questions you can expect. I titled this podcast Voluptuous Questions because, as you know, this is a podcast where I will be asking YOU questions that go WAY beyond the boring yes and no answers and answers that have just one word in them. These questions will be sexy and provocative, not in the usual sense, but more so in the mental and emotional sense. These questions won’t be short and straight. They will be juicy, curvy, and will make you desire a longer answer. I want to ask questions that often make you think hmmm nobody had ever asked me THAT before and make you WANT to answer these questions and even ask these questions on your own dates or in your next get-together with friends. My point is not to make you feel uncomfortable. On the contrary, I want you to be SUPER comfortable with yourself and with me.
Haydee [00:03:54]:
After all, YOU are the guest on my podcast each week, and at the same time, you are your OWN audience. So for your OWN sake and comfort, conducting this interview with ease and flow are of the essence. Is it possible that you feel discomfort sometimes? Yes! But usually, it will not be because my question was intrusive, but because somewhere deep inside of you, you have some resistance to answering THAT particular question. It may be because you THINK the question is pointless or silly, or because you don’t want to know your own truth. You are not obliged to answer any question, but it would be awesome if you answer it, at least in your own head. My invitation to you is to be willing to go deep and still have fun. Do you accept my invitation? Yes?
Wonderful! Let’s start nice and slow. My question for you today is what is something about who you are as a person that you would like to share with me? You see, it’s not so hard, is it? Take a few moments to think about, or better yet, write down your answer. In pretty much every episode, I will be answering the same question I ask you. Why? Because this is an interview and a mutual conversation, remember? I don’t want you to feel alone in the process. If you open up to me, I WANT to open up to you. But you have listening options.
Maybe you listen to the episode and all you want is to get the question and then pause the podcast so that you can answer the question and then come back to listen to my answer, or not listen to my answer and simply come back the following week for the next question. Or you may want to listen to the whole episode, which will usually be much shorter than this one. By the way, this episode is a little longer because I need to share with you how this podcast is going to work. You would then take some time at the end of the episode to reflect and write down your own answer. If I were in your shoes, this would be my choice. So what’s my answer to the question: What’s something about me that I’d like to share with you? One of my favorite things about human relationships is when relationships flow, when hours go by and the conversation was kept alive by a simple ping-pong back and forth. For me, having RICH conversations is SO much fun that it’s like playing a board game. The first reason it’s fun for me is because I know that not everybody is willing to have profound conversations.
And finding someone in this world of more than 7.8 billion who’s willing to, quote unquote, play with me is SUPER fun! So if you’re here and you’re excited about the future conversations you and I will have, YAY!!! You’re my type of person. The second reason I like rich conversations is because they force you to leave behind the boring and monotonous parts of your life and enter a world where you can discover another human being while also discovering yourself by voicing what you feel, like, dislike, and think out loud. I keep a daily journal, but for people who don’t, these types of dialogues are usually the only time they get to externalize what’s inside. It’s always fun to identify what commonalities you have with others and who doesn’t like to receive positive feedback and compliments? I know I do. The third reason the act of conversing is special to me is because it’s seductive.
It makes me reveal more of who I am. The longer you’ll stay, the more you ask and the more you show me you are truly interested. And this is ESPECIALLY important to me because I am a private and mysterious person. I don’t just share details about my life with anybody. I do understand the ENORMOUS irony in me having this podcast where I already know that I’ll be sharing more with YOU than any of my friends and family. BUT we have an agreement, right? You share, I share, we both share. Can I share a secret with you? I think that people, and especially men, who want to and actually put in the work to have a conversation with you is VERY attractive to me. It’s a turnoff when men don’t communicate or take a very long time to reply or think of an answer.
If your love language happens to be words of affirmation, silence from anybody is even MORE unattractive. On the flip side, a man who can verbalize what they think and especially what they feel with ease is SO incredibly attractive. I know it’s not easy for men to do this, but when they do, WOW, they truly stand out. And just to clarify, if you’re a lady or a gentleman and you know that conversations aren’t your strength, I invite you to continue listening to this podcast because sometimes practice makes perfect. To wrap up my own answer, I’ll say that it’s a TRUE honor to coincide with someone you have a connection with. So thank you SO much for being here. At the end of this podcast, head on over to TikTok and search for the handle @Voluptuousquestions and share your responses there. Or simply say hi.
If you would like me to share your responses in a Voluptuous Questions newsletter or on social media, use the hashtag #YouCanShare. By using it, you’re giving me permission to share, but rest assured that I’ll still respect your privacy by simply mentioning your name and the initial of your last name, like John D. or Mary S.. Aside from interviewing you, I would also like your input in shaping this podcast. So if you’re so kind, please answer the questions that have a green background. Remember I said that you and I would be catching up every week? I’m sharing this mic, this space, my time, my life and my social media with you so we can truly connect. And in order to get the connection between you and I rolling, I invite you to continue listening to more episodes that are available right now. Sign up to our newsletter and you can download your printable where you can write down the answers to your questions.
Haydee [00:11:07]:
One of my favorite things to do is to find AMAZING resources and sharing them with you. That’s why in the show notes, you’ll see links to recommended products movies, songs, series, et cetera. You can find a link to the Show Notes in the description. It’s been an ABSOLUTE pleasure meeting you. I cannot even BEGIN to express how thankful I am that you’re here. YOU are the one that will make the show possible. Remember, you’re the star of this podcast, and you’re the star of your life. Keep shining brightly
always. See you in the next episode!
